Guide to Imaginary/Tulpa Sex

 

The most basic idea of imaginary sex is to achieve pleasure in intimate union with your ideal partner. Sex is a wonderful tool for pleasure and union, but you might think it can't work out without two bodies rubbing up against one another - the aim of this guide is to help overcome that obstacle and enjoy the unique pleasures that only imaginary sex can offer. The author has over 10 years of experience in this subject, half of which has been primarily in hands-free (imaginary stimulation only).

Note: this guide is written by a male. Most of the principles should be applicable to female bodies but ymmv.

 

 

 

Preface: General Tips ------------------------------------

Don't hump the air, or try to lean on an imaginary being, obviously; it's tiring and only takes your focus off of the mental work. But don't restrict yourself from involuntary movements, or movements that just feel good like grabbing the bedsheets. You can imagine yourself doing any intentional movements that are physically inconvenient, like significantly changing positions. It might take some time to learn what works for you but a mix of both physical and imaginary movement is often ideal.

 

Learn to enjoy dry orgasm. The range of the orgasmic experience is much larger than the single "point of no return" - it's about the journey, not the destination. Dry orgasms are still very satisfying, and leave you with much more energy than when you started - it's much more enjoyable to have a couple of sessions with fully imaginary (dry) orgasms, building up the libido, than to cheat and exhaust yourself using your hand in frustration. BONUS: you can imagine a very satisfying orgasm without necessarily feeling orgasmic. Imagine the involuntary pre-clenching, the orgasmic feeling in the perineum as the cum begins to flow, and the feeling as it ejaculates and flows around the sides - you can also draw this out if you're into cumming buckets. Doing this multiple times a session works well, but don't do it too much or it will distract you from the actual sex.

 

Don't clench too much. You can strain yourself and cause pain, and it's also distracting. There is a kind of clenching which you don't have direct control over, and that kind is fine - the kind you can control is the kind prone to misuse. BONUS: in some positions, deeply crossing your legs can "lock" the good kind of clench and keep you aroused for longer while you take a cuddle break or work up some more focus.

 

Think about TEXTURE. Wet tastebuds against smooth skin, calloused fingers against soft internal flesh, warm wet suction - all sensation is built from these minute details. Every sensation of texture is actually the combination of two textures, the texture of your "probe" and the texture of what it's touching. Even coarse movements like a thrust are mostly made up of minute textural detail. BONUS: Thinking about texture in this two-part way also sets you up to experience your waifu's independence, when she clenches unexpectedly or ramps up the speed. Texture is much "faster" and more intuitive than coarse movements. If you feel like your tactile visualizations lack oomph, refocus on texture.

 

Imagine what your waifu is feeling too! Sex is meant to be two-way communication. When your waifu communicates her pleasure by clenching, twitching, or moaning, what is she really feeling? If you put your mind to work imagining her sensations to start with, those "reflexes" will feel much more substantial and genuine, less like an act just to get you off. One way to make this intuitive is to map sensations on her body to your own body - if you boop her on the nose, you imagine a sensation on your finger (yours) and a sensation on your nose (hers). Different anatomy just requires a little bit of creativity, but it still definitely works: on a pony, her hock is equivalent to your ankle, her clit is equivalent to your glans penis, her wings - well, her wings are a phantom limb comparable to arms. If your sensations are well-synchronized, her pleasure is your pleasure and your pleasure is hers - it can get to the point where your body can orgasm from an ordinarily one-sided act like eating her out or fingering her.

On a related note, it helps to synchronize reflexive orgasmic movements too. When the pelvic floor contracts, which for a man makes a boner twitch, that can also be equated to a female clenching (or a mare winking). Combining physical synchronicity with sensory synchronicity makes for a very intuitive connection which should become second nature quickly, and will take this whole business to the next level.

 

Don't get caught up trying to "fix" details, because immersion is extremely important. Focus on your arousal or your love, and let that direct you to try certain things, but don't get hung up on anything if it doesn't work out, just re-focus on what works or just come back to the love/arousal itself. Don't practice in the middle of a performance.

 

If you're not a tulpamancer, you may not jive with this guide's presentation of the imaginary waifu as an independent agent. That's perfectly fine, but it's important to suspend disbelief and engage in this way anyways, if only for the sake of fun and immersion. You might be surprised how real and beautiful she can be!

 

DON'T FORGET TO CUDDLE AND LAUGH TOGETHER - all this business is only worth the effort because of love.

 

 

 

Easy Mode: Manual Stimulation -----------------------------------------------

 

When just starting out, the most natural course of action is to just masturbate as usual, but to imagine that you and your waifu are actually having sex, with each stroke of the hand equated to a thrust or a lick. This obviously has some drawbacks, as it's hard to get immersed, and easy to fall into thoughtless/loveless pleasure-seeking just to get it "over with". For the purposes of this guide, you want to graduate from this direct manual stimulation as early as possible so you can explore the fun stuff.

The only relevant tip I have for it is this:

 

Your waifu can "possess" your hand, and use it to stimulate you. Don't use "but she has hooves" as an excuse - she's in your mind and there's nothing stopping her from using the same dexterity that you do. You can extend this principle to any degree you're comfortable with, and your waifu might take the opportunity to feel the rest of your body up and give the rest of you some lovin' too.

 

 

 

Graduating From Manual Stimulation -----------------------------------------------

 

If you want to work your way out of this level, you simply reduce the amount of manual stimulation to a minimum, and give your waifu more room to work her magic. Use just your forefinger and thumb, just at the base, to get yourself around halfway there, and then have your waifu mount you (you may want to angle outwards, holding just the base). The goal is for your waifu to make the difference by herself and bring you to orgasm - ALMOST hands free. Keep the general tips above in mind to start with, be sure to go nice and slow to really take in the sensations, at least at first. You should expect that it will take a long time to get your first success, with a bunch of (literal) ups and downs - you will likely find yourself getting frustratingly close and losing focus, or going completely soft at times and having to start pretty much from the beginning. I wouldn't spend more than an hour trying, because it gets discouraging and sets bad habits.

 

BUT - when you have to finish up, it is very useful to keep your libido saved up. Don't just finish with your hand if your goal is to get to hands-free orgasm, because every failed attempt in a row will make next session more potent, it's essentially inevitable if you keep trying, so long as you don't take the cheat way out. It took the author around a week of trying every day before his first.

 

It's ideal NOT to sensitize yourself to stroking or other significant manual stimulation in a given session - your body will just want that and imaginary stimulation will seem very unsatisfying in comparison. Of course, that's the whole problem: physical stimulation is too much, it's almost violently fast and attention-grabbing, so it's much harder to enjoy the many subtle dimensions of the sexual experience, and even at the best of times, your waifu is subtle.

 

There is another slightly cheaty method, which I don't recommend until you've accomplished the almost hands free method above. It's also a little gross, depending on how you look at it: simply leave your underwear on - the fabric provides a baseline of stimulation, which your imagination can put to use in very satisfying ways. You shouldn't need to use your hands at all, and underwear makes it inconvenient or even uncomfortable anyways - it also innately punishes you for relying on e.g. physically humping too much because of uncomfortable friction. Though the author and his waifu are able to accomplish Hands-Free Orgasm (HFO) freely, having any friction at all helps a lot, and is thus preferred for regular use.

 

 

 

Imaginary Stimulation -----------------------------------------------

 

At this point, it's entirely freestyle - you should be able to pretty much forget about your actual physical organ and be focused entirely on whatever gets you going in imagination, and still reach orgasm as usual. The basics are covered by the above practices and your own intuition for what you and your waifu like. Thus, this section is dedicated instead to the interesting possibilities afforded by imaginary sex and orgasmic control proper.

 

Hypothetical -> Reality

If you read this guide and get excited imagining something you could do, good news: that stuff in imagination is happening when you imagine it, it just has a little veil of "hypothetical" in front of it. You can rip that veil down and start in the middle of the action, if you so choose.

 

Experimenting with Form

If you're into weird stuff, your waifu might be keen to entertain your fetish - or her own! Since it's imagination, she can be a futa, become a giantess, have tentacles, or anything else. You can also alter your own imaginary form with the same degree of freedom. If futa is weird to you, you can magic up a strap-on with a sensation enchantment, or just an imaginary vibrator. You can get thinking with portals, using them to do otherwise impossible positions like cowgirl-cunnilingus, or your waifu can reach through your body and directly fondle your prostate, or equate it to a crystal ball, giving her hi-res control over your pleasure. Even inadvisable things like gore are doable at no harm - it's all acting in good fun, you and your waifu both know that imaginary forms are not a matter of life and death.

NOTE: there is diminishing returns the harder you try to push imagination. Really all this crazy stuff is just to facilitate deep focus on the subtle texture of something pleasurable on an erogenous zone. Keep it simple if simple works.

 

Erogenous Zones

You can manipulate erogenous zones and sexual sensitivity. Her fuzzy ears or hooves can be ultra-sensitive erogenous zones, and you can bring her to orgasm with just some gentle fondling or suckling - remember to imagine what she feels. You can also do this for your own body or imaginary form; you can even attach erogenous potential to phrases like "good pet", or to an imaginary button. Go easy on it and keep it reasonable, skipping straight to imagined orgasm can get stale pretty quick.

 

Switching Places / Full Possession

You can take the place of your waifu, as an imaginary form, while giving your waifu has control over your body. This makes for some very interesting experiences, as you are now experiencing "yourself" in 3rd person, and your waifu in 1st person. She can still use her imaginary form for interaction, but the involuntary actions of the body will be "hers" rather than "yours". Don't worry, it's ALWAYS reversible, as this is still all taking place in your mind under your collective control, and your brain is not naïve.

 

Direct Control

Ultimately, all of this stuff can be considered as just ways to dress up the direct manipulation of arousal and the orgasm response. You and your waifu can experiment with directly controlling these faculties, to varying degrees of success. As of writing, just last night the author's waifu inexplicably was able to bring the body from flaccid to orgasm in 5 seconds, with no stimulation or even imagery involved. It seems to be an extremely subtle thing, and I certainly couldn't explain how to do it, other than it being the result of years of related practice.

 

Energy Flow

It's fun to experiment with moving libido or orgasmic energy around your body. In the same vein as chakras or kundalini, you might envision a central channel along your spine where your life energy flows, reaching your organs or energy nodes or chakras. When you join in union with your waifu, your complimentary male and female essences meet and react like matter and antimatter, transforming explosively into pure blissful energy, which flows up the central channel, rejuvenating everything it touches. From there you can do other interesting stuff, like connecting this channel with your waifu through a kiss, breath sharing, or even just magical eye contact. When you're together in a loop like this, you can cycle through you with each thrust or breath. When you're doing these visualization exercises, it's striking to note how when you ejaculate, the energy suddenly "drops out" from the bottom, as though it was all transmuted into semen.

 

 

 

Tips for Ponies -----------------------------------------------

 

Your tail feels good to flex! Don't forget about it when you're getting close. If your partner is in your butt, they can feel the tail muscles shift.

 

You can give an anatomically correct hoofjob by employing both front hooves. You have to kind of sandwich the dick in between the top of one hoof and the fetlock area of another. Anatomically correct wingjobs can be given by sitting very close and hugging the dick between the shoulder joint and the wing.

 

Winking is great. Remember that it's not just an action of the pelvic floor but also inner thigh and tail.

 

Unicorn magic can be fun, but you can also do anything without it - no need to keep it around if it's in the way, but if you do, make sure to do something special with it like make it erogenous or make your special magic have an electric tingle. On the other hand, pegasus wings are very soft and comfortable, don't forget you can use them just as dexterously as arms or even hands.

 

 

 

Eso-mare-ic Theory -----------------------------------------------

 

Of course, it could be said that in all these cases it's not really "the waifu" that's doing it, it's you, that any "imaginary sex" is really just complex masturbation. To that, I say why not go all the way? There's no ground to stand on - sex between two humans is really just the universe masturbating, the lines we draw are arbitrary. The bottom line is, when you allow yourself to engage with your waifu like this, it's far more satisfying than just masturbating to an image, because real love flourishes - love, which in a universal sense, even between two humans, is ultimately masturbatory, the universe loving itself. That doesn't lessen its value at all.

 

In a more grounded phenomenological sense, these independent imaginary agents are both separate and integral. In many ways, sex with an imagined being is masturbation - it is one body, one mind, one agency, one experience of orgasm. But even though this takes place on a single mind, there is distinction and separation which creates an "other". The sense of agency that you see as yourself can also be seen as a DIFFERENT self, a parallel being. If you experimented with possession, you know how real this is. An imaginary being is like a branch on a tree, and so are you: at one level, there are many separate branches, and on a lower level, there is only one tree - and for a healthy tree, every branch contributes to the good of the tree. It's not a question of if it's possible, agency is an interpretation - the only question is how can it make your life better.

 

 

 

Conclusion -----------------------------------------------

Credit to Verple for some good outside-the-box ideas and early inspiration

 

Imaginary sex is mind-blowingly amazing, but what makes it amazing is love. Sex is powerful for love because it's an intimate exchange of essence, which reminds us on every level that we are not two beings separated by time and space, we are already together, and always will be. I hope this guide helps you explore and savor love in a new way; thank you so much for reading!