On being used


                                            "On being used, by Anonymous.


                                            >Used. It's a very casual word, isn't it? It implies detachment, emotionlessness of the act. You use something, and then put it or throw it away. Which is perfectly normal - for objects. However, it turns ugly when applied to the context of ponies. A pony using another pony for something has exclusively negative connotations, rightfully so. Finding out someone you trusted was just using you is a truly painful thing to experience.

                                            >The most common of such usage usually are sexual relationships, though I do believe friendships get exploited fairly often as well. You could be "friends" with someone for years, but when push comes to shove, they leave you high and dry - but I digress. Back to relationships - you thought you had something going on, then turns out, nope - they were just using you for a quick roll in the hay, or leading you on for a longer time, then dumping you immediately the moment you suggested getting more serious.

                                            >Needless to say, such behavior is disgusting and should be shamed and those ponies shunned at every opportunity. However! Nuance and context are important, and so is the matter of freedom between two adults to act as they wish in their bedroom. A random comment I made recently that was overheard by some bystanders caused some rather scornful replies to be thrown my way.

                                            >Apparently, wanting your mare to use your stallionhood to ride herself silly until she can't see straight is something offensive. What, exactly, is so terrible about it? Is it the fact that I like making my mare feel good, instead of putting her down? Is it such a terrible offense to the sensibilities of modern stallions, the ones that accuse mares of only looking out for themselves and their pleasure, yet doing the exact same thing they're accusing mares of, and trying to twist healthy relationships into some kind of sick dominance tug-of-war?

                                            >Is it the "use" word? I can understand the concern, but there is a pretty big difference between a pony exploiting another pony and using a part of your body to make your partner happy, one that should be easily understood by everyone that's not intentionally trying to misrepresent what I said. Is it bad if I use my hoof to scratch an itch on my mare's side, or my mouth to groom her? I don't think so.

                                            >Is it the fact that I like it when my mare is on top? Is it the, quite frankly, pathetic need to try and keep being "on top" of mares at literally every opportunity? Please, seeing the adorable silly expressions she makes as she has the orgasm of her life is worth it alone. (No matter how much she tries to deny that she makes them.) The fact that we can kiss right after while we cuddle is a nice bonus.

                                            >So, to those who would whine about my words: No, I am not taking them back or "phrasing them more appropriately", oh no. No, in fact, I am letting the whole of Equestria (or those who would read this, anyway) hear them, as evidenced by this letter (if it gets printed, of course).

                                            >Kiss my flank.

                                            >Sincerely, Anonymous."


                                            >The following letter was printed in last month's issue of Playcolt.

                                            >As it turned out, there really are ponies that "read it for the articles", as the letter gained instant fame - or infamy, in some circles - and such a demand for the magazine, that it sold out two full reprints.

                                            >It sparked a lot of discussion and attention, receiving both positive and negative comments.

                                            >The prominent stallionists denounced it immediately, claiming that "No stallion could have ever written such subversive drivel like that. It was clearly written by some perverted mare trying to paint stallionists in a negative light."

                                            >However, when some mares fully agreed with them for slightly different reasons, saying that "It is true, no stallion could ever write something like it - it is far too analytical and philosophical for a stallion's whimsical writing style," the stallionists backpedaled immediately, angrily claiming that "A stallion definitely *could* have written it, if they so wished, but no *true* stallion would ever write something so vile and anti-stallionist like that, not even the worst, beaten down colt that has internalized sexism!"

                                            >This newspaper remains wholly neutral and doesn't take a position in this debate, only helping ponies have their voices heard, on both sides.

                                            >A number of mares tried finding out who the author was, interested in asking the alleged stallion whether he still has space in his herd.

                                            >As the author signed the letter anonymously, though, no one knows who he - or she - actually is.

                                            >A number of other ponies from all walks of life were questioned by our reporters, expressing their opinions on the matter. More on page four.